Life Is Change and Growth Is Optional

Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.  Karen Kaiser Clark

 

Yet how many of us feel trapped and unable to make the changes we know we need to make?   prison 2

Even when we’re faced with major life changing decisions, for some people it’s easier to take a default position of doing nothing. We explain away or rationalise why we can’t have or can’t do what we’d really love, because we’re fearful of what people will think of us or how they will judge us if we step out of our usual ‘persona’.

It might be leaving a marriage or relationship, changing careers, asking for a pay rise, saying “No” for once, it could be taking 6 months off for a sabbatical or going off to live on a Greek Island for a year. We all know what we’re avoiding.

When we allow that small, persistent voice of reason to smother our deepest longings, our spirit shrivels and hides, the connection to our intuition and what we love fades and withers.

Sometimes people delay taking decisions because they live in permanent preparation for the life they will have when everything’s perfect or the time is right – the children have left home; there’s more money; they’ve lost weight; they’ve got the car and the job they’ve always wanted.

The thing is, today is all we have.

As Oliver Wendell Homes wrote:  Many people die with their music still in them.          crossroads 3

Why? They’re always getting ready to live. Before they know it though, time has run out.

One of the questions I ask coaching clients is this line from a poem by Mary Oliver:

“What is it you want to do with your one, wild and precious life” ?

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