Decisions, decisions…..we make them every day. Sometimes they’re so easy we don’t notice we’re making them whilst others can keep us awake at night.
I have a belief that if we weren’t given the opportunity to make decisions as children, it’s that much harder when we’re adults because making choices for ourselves hasn’t been ‘hard wired’ into us. How do we weigh up the pro’s and con’s of a situation [when we’ve never had the experience] to make a choice that could be life changing?
Regardless of how much experience we have in taking decisions, even the small challenges that are not life changing, like phoning a friend we’ve had a row with, can be stressful. We can choose to ignore and avoid the problem altogether by not calling, or we can summon up the courage to pick up the phone and sort it out. There are probably several other options up our sleeve as well and that’s the point – that unconsciously, we follow a predictable series of steps that informs our decision making process and that gives us a result we don’t want! How many times do we say, “Oh well, it wasn’t meant to be….”; “The Universe must have other plans for me…”; “I never get what I go for….”; “Life’s not fair…”
Believe it or not, we all have patterns in our thinking and how we make choices. Often, we have more choices than we realise but we can’t see them. They’re hidden by our fears – about the future, about money, about our relationships and our issues about our identity – who we really are and how we want the world to see us – so we choose our life based on other people’s expectations and dreams for us and our own limiting beliefs.
The result eventually is feeling stuck, lost, depressed, ‘in a rut’. This crisis is because we don’t feel we have a lot of choice in our lives. As Einstein said “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” is a definition of insanity.
- Do all your relationships end the same way?
- Does success always elude you?
- Perhaps you achieve success but then lose it?
- Do your business plans never take off?
- Does it feel like you sabotage your life?
Looking at our patterns and learning how we can make changes can be literally life changing. Robert Fritz, author of international best seller ‘The Path of Least Resistance’ discovered and developed a process that gives us key insights into understanding our patterns. These insights are liberating. It means we can move out of our pattern and choose more consciously for what we truly want.
How your life looks now is a result of choices you made in the past and your future will be a result of the choices you make now.
I have invited Robert and Rosalind Fritz to run their dynamic and life changing workshop CHOICES in London in June this year. Discover how your personal pattern of choices creates your life and how you can move from where you are now to where you want to be.
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“Robert Fritz… is without a doubt one of the most original thinkers today on the creative process in business, the arts, science, and life in general. His work has deeply impacted my life and the lives of many of my colleagues.” – Peter Senge, Author of The Fifth Discipline